💫The Dance of the Sexes

Dear Goddess,

Most of my friends are older than me and married.

Often I’ve wondered what goes behind closed doors. What are the contemporary topics of discussion between couples these days? What do they prioritize in their relationship? How do they treat each other? Are they in love? What is love for them?

Do they have good sex? How do they view sex?

I don’t ask too much because I respect their relationship and privacy. But from what I gather, one thing is definite - Sex and Sexuality are rushed.

Our sexuality is our greatest secret, and the key to our awakening. I am a strong advocate for expressed sexuality and exploring spirituality through it. 🌸

Topics around sexuality are mostly limited to the physical act of having sex, which too is hardly pleasurable to women because they don’t receive the attention they need to experience that cosmic energy created during sex. As for men, they want to get off and call it a day.

Relationships like these, in my opinion, are mere companionships. It’s friends who tolerate each other, with benefits.

It is nowhere close to the intertwining of souls on the spiritual plane - which is the essence of sacred sexual intimacy, the glue in long-lasting romantic relationships. 💞

The idea is to convert the essence of one’s being, or Jing, into “the spiritual element of a person’s psyche”, or Shen. (Based on Traditional Chinese Medicine TCM)

Or turn Ojas, into Tejas, in terms of Ayurveda.

So what are we really doing?

The media has inverted the ancient wisdom on sex into something for quick pleasure. Casual sex and pornography are promoted, and even validated! We live in a culture where it’s normal to see each other naked but abnormal to commit to them exclusively.

What is supposed to be a gift - to be able to cultivate sexual energy with one person and go up the spiritual ladder, is not cool. I diverted a bit but my point is that we need a better basis for forming sexual relations altogether.

If your boudoir skills are learned from pornography, it will be impossible to elevate you and your partner to higher sexual expeditions. All areas of life improve for a couple when the man knows how to REALLY please a Woman.💫

“Your sexual flow is connected to your financial flow. If you are sexually stuck, you will be financially stuck.”

Being the creator, a woman is literally the portal to create abundance and happiness. Our finances improve when we have the freedom to authentically express our energy (sexuality); when we embody that high frequency of energy as our natural state of being, we attract all our desires including money. 💵✨

And as the saying goes - Happy Wife, Happy Life!And as for men, working the female anatomy, being the Sex God is his most natural state. 😇

You’d be surprised when you add the element of spirituality (not religion), and you prioritize sex as sacred and an important pillar of a relationship (rather than quick dopamine), you will feel a huge energetic shift while in the act. 🌟

Sex and sexuality are nothing to be applauded, or shamed. It’s the most natural part of human existence and the gateway to cosmic energy.

This was just an introductory post on the topic. In the coming newsletters, I’ll be touching upon spiritual texts on Sex including Tantra.

Love,

Zitni Zun💖

Disclaimer: I’m a researcher and an experimenter. Opinions are personal. Please note that the featured image and copyright belong to their original owners.