Dear Goddess,

🌸 August Reflections: Winter is Coming 

It’s August already, and the winters are right around the corner. This means it’s the perfect time to hunt for a suitable companion of the opposite gender! Wait… you do want the cozy cuddles before a fireplace and chit-chat that runs well into the night, right?

I thought so. No one wants to be cold and alone. Winters are depressing enough.

💭 The Age-Old Question: What Quality Should You Seek?

So, one question that came to my head was -

What is one quality that I am looking for in a man?

I know it's an age-old question. People draw long lists, believe me, I have. Through various phases of life, I was relentless in finding the perfect match.

I don’t know what that even means anymore - Perfect match. Or a good match.

🤔 The Problem with “Perfect Matches”

How do you determine that? Looks are deceiving half the time. So are words because both of you are putting on your best show to impress the other.

Oftentimes, you are impressing not to win over the other person, but to seek validation or some ego boost. Yes, people do that. They open other people’s hearts with no intention of loving them.

💫 Why “Vibe” Isn’t Enough

The whole “vibe” matching thing is also pretty stupid. People who have common interests can become good company or acquaintances, but not necessarily lovers. Vibe guarantees nothing. I’ve vibed so much with people only to know how contrasting our perspectives are from each other or what a questionable character they have.

🎯 The One Quality You Should Hunt for This Year

So, what is that one quality that I’m hunting for this year? (And maybe you should too)

If I really have to narrow it down to one-word quality that can make a life-long partner, that would be -

✨ Sincerity

The Cornerstone of a Relationship

Sincerity is the cornerstone of any relationship, particularly when choosing a future boyfriend or husband. We are in a world filled with distractions - people are flaky because they think they have options. Connections are fleeting and lacking depth.

In such uncertain times, Sincerity is the quality that anchors a relationship, making it genuine and enduring.

🛡️ Why Sincerity Matters

Sincerity reflects a man’s true character. Only when a man is sincere do his words and actions align, leaving no room for hidden motives. His authenticity builds trust for the future partnership. Without trust, everything is a fragile facade, easily shattered by doubt and insecurity.

You’re insecure about your partner only because deep down you know Sincerity isn’t his strong suit. And the feeling of insecurity robs you of joy. You become paranoid, controlling, and manipulative - not a positive growth in life, eh?

If that is you, check out my video on how to be a more secure person by connecting with your Femininity, here.

🌱 Sincerity: The Foundation of Emotional Intimacy  

A Sincere person creates a safe, stable environment where love can flourish. With it comes other character traits like Loyalty, Kindness, Devotion, and so on.

Sincerity also builds deep emotional intimacy. A sincere man is devoted to you, so he will share his true feelings, desires, and motives with you. This vulnerability helps the partners to connect on a soul level, much beyond attraction. Such a partner will undoubtedly be by your side through life’s inevitable ups and downs.

⏳ Final Thoughts: Sincerity is Everything

Other qualities, like kindness, ambition, or even physical attraction, while important, can fade or change over time. People grow out of all of them in testing times. But a Sincere man will do the work it takes to nurture the relationship, honor his commitments, and strive to be the best partner he can be. This unwavering commitment is what ultimately matters most in lifelong partnerships.

Without Sincerity, any other qualities a man may possess are hollow.

💕 From My Heart to Yours

I write this with personal experience. No matter how mature, old, and “nice” a man is, these characteristics don’t guarantee Sincerity.

It’s tough to meet a sincere man these days, but if you are sincere yourself - you will surely meet your vibrational match in a devoted man :)

Love,

Zitni Zun <3