My Loves, 🌸

A very odd encounter with a self-proclaimed masculine man has pushed me to write this one.

And I think many of you will relate to this.

Have You Met This Type of Man? 🤔

There’s a category of men out there:

- The Pretenders: They’ll pretend they’ve “got it all figured out.”

- The Broody Act: They act broody and “experienced.”

- The Assumed Authority: They ask questions from a position of assumed authority.

But When It Comes to Delivery… 🚩

They are Responsibility Avoiders. They lash out because they can’t handle responsibility.

I’ve written on these men before—the Free Riding Men with Inferiority Complex. (Check out my previous post here.)

These are Husbands in Name Only-

Looking for a Wife with NO intention of becoming a Husband.

Red Flags to Watch Out For 🚨

How do you know if you’re dealing with one of these men?

- Self-Serving Inquiries: They only question what you can do for them and never express what they wish to do for you.

- Family Preservation, Not Partnership: They want a woman to marry so they can keep their family “together,” not for true partnership.

- The Non-Providers: They won’t provide—they’ll wait for you to pay, and sadly, you might, just to avoid an awkward situation from the goodness of your heart.

- Judgmental Interrogators: They’ll ask personal questions early on to judge your character and establish moral superiority.

- Loveless Expectations: They don’t plan on loving but expect to be loved and respected (for what?!).

- Pretentious Chivalry: They have zero chivalry but are pretentious about having it, often narrating made-up events to show how chivalrous they’ve been.

- False Moral High Ground: They’ll talk about basic ethics like “speaking truth” as if it’s some great epiphany, to show how pure and moral they are.

- Inherited Wealth Show-Offs: They’ll show off wealth that their parents earned for them.

- High-Society Liars: They’ll pretend they’ve traveled the world (as if you wouldn’t call their bluff).

- Intelligence Challengers: They can’t digest that a woman can be more intelligent than them and will ironically argue to display their “intelligence.”

- Unqualified Educators: They’ll try to educate you in your field of work, pushing their uninformed opinions as fact.

- Boys in Men’s Clothing: They’ll give the classic “I’m a guy” excuse as if it’s funny that they still behave like adolescent boys.

- Cheap Dates, Cheap Talks: They’ll cheap out on everything from the start—dates, quality of conversations, etc.—and still expect to be liked for it.

- Misogynistic at the Core

The Dowry Dilemma 💰

If they’re from the Indian Subcontinent, this type is likely also seeking huge wedding gifts (dowry), probably thinking it’s their birthright for how “amazing” they are.

To repeat what I’ve preached earlier-

1. Girls, let a man PROVIDE for you. There is a difference between giving occasional gifts to your man and going all out like he’s your child.

2. Don’t trust his words easily. Dusty dudes run their mouths all day with no action.

3. Women, just through their existence, and their presence, provide healing energy to men. So try not to give something away without an energy exchange in terms of commitment from them.

4. Men are always harvesting your energy. Even through text message; even if they have no intentions of commitment with you. Don’t give it away for free.

5. Your Aura, Presence, and Consciousness are gifts. Don’t let anyone take them for granted.

There are these men making rounds on social media shaming women for asking for the bare minimum from the masculine. Ask these men if they’ll still uphold the relationship if their women stop delivering as well. They’ll have no answer.

All in all, girls get your bag ($$$) and leave out the door. Your femininity will find its correct match when you stop dealing with low lives.

Unapologetically,

Zitni Zun <3